How to Romanticize Your Everyday Life (Even When You’re Starting Over)

Written By Fannie Mukua

Finding beauty, peace, and presence in the soft, sacred details of your everyday becoming.

🌸 Why Romanticizing Your Life Is an Act of Self-Love

I used to believe the phrase romanticize your life was reserved for the privileged—champagne brunches, silk robes, and croissants in Paris. But that narrative didn’t fit the version of me rebuilding my life from my mother’s basement with two daughters and a pile of laundry between us.

What I know now is this: romanticizing your life has nothing to do with luxury and everything to do with intention. It’s how you choose to see your life—not after you’ve “arrived,” but right here, in the sacred, unfiltered middle.

In a world where 1 in 2 women experience burnout by age 35 and 60% report feeling disconnected from joy in daily life (APA, 2023), reclaiming beauty in the mundane isn’t indulgent—it’s revolutionary. It’s healing. It’s an act of radical self-worth.

And if you’re navigating your own fresh start—financially, emotionally, or otherwise—this post is for you.

✨ Romanticizing Your Life Is Budget-Friendly (And Sometimes Budget Healing)

Let’s get one thing straight: romanticizing your life doesn’t require a single dollar. In fact, it’s often the free rituals—slow coffee sips, handwritten notes to self, lighting a candle before logging into your budget planner—that feel the richest.

I started incorporating my Wealth Flow Budget Planner into a nightly wind-down ritual—soft lo-fi music, a warm cup of tea, and a quick check-in with my numbers. That small shift turned budgeting from a task I dreaded into an act of self-nourishment.

According to a study by the Journal of Consumer Psychology, those who mindfully track their spending report higher levels of confidence and decreased financial anxiety. This is the soft life, reimagined—grounded in clarity, not chaos.

🕯️ Sensory Rituals That Ground You in the Present

Romanticizing your life is about getting back in your body—one sense at a time. These gentle rituals won’t fix everything overnight, but they remind you: you are still here, and that matters.

Sight

  • Curate a corner of your space that reflects the life you’re building.

  • Add fresh flowers, a vision board, or photos of places that inspire you.

Sound

  • Create a “soft life” playlist. One you press play on when you’re budgeting, journaling, or cleaning.

  • Play affirmations while you get ready. Let your subconscious absorb the love.

Smell

  • Burn incense while folding clothes.

  • Light a candle when paying bills—yes, even digital ones.

Taste

  • Make your meals a moment. Eat off a real plate. Drink water from a wine glass. Add cinnamon to your morning oats like it’s an offering.

Touch

  • Wrap up in your softest blanket and say, “I deserve softness, too.”

💭 Reframing the “Messy Middle”

When you’re in the thick of starting over—especially financially—it can feel like life’s beauty is on pause. You might be budgeting every dollar, living off hand-me-downs, or sharing space with family like I did.

But here’s the truth I wish someone had whispered to me: this chapter isn’t your failure—it’s your foundation.

  • That hand-written grocery list on the fridge?

Those aren’t signs that you’re behind. They’re signs that you’re intentional. And intention is the heartbeat of the soft life.

✍️ Romanticizing = Ritualizing

We often wait to celebrate until we “have more.” More money, more time, more beauty. But you don’t have to wait to love your life. Start now—by turning every “I have to” into an “I get to.”

Examples:

  • Budgeting: Light a candle. Put on your playlist. Open your Wealth Flow Budget Planner and check in with your goals like you’re catching up with an old friend.

  • Cleaning: Open the windows. Bless each room with gratitude. This is your sanctuary, no matter how humble.

  • Grocery Shopping: Dress in something that makes you feel radiant. Pick one ingredient that feels like luxury on a budget.

  • Laundry: Pour something sparkly (even just seltzer) and fold with love.

Science backs this up: Rituals, even when symbolic, reduce anxiety and improve emotional regulation (Harvard Business Review, 2016).

🌱 The Small Habits That Shift Everything

Softness is in the small things. Here are a few daily practices that helped me reconnect with joy:

  • Write one loving thing to yourself before bed.

  • Light incense before journaling.

  • Track your income + spending weekly, not just monthly.

  • Do one thing just because it feels good, not because it’s productive.

  • Keep a “soft life” folder on your phone—photos of things that make you smile.

These micro-moments matter. They become the anchor when the world feels wobbly.

💖 When You’re Rebuilding, Start with Love

Starting over is hard. It’s also sacred. You’re not “behind.” You’re becoming.

When I moved back home with two kids, a car I could barely afford, and a bank account I avoided checking, I felt like I’d failed. But the moment I started tracking my progress with intention, journaling my wins, and prioritizing small joys like hot coffee and long walks, my life began to shift.

Self-love isn’t always spa days. Sometimes, it’s using a budget planner instead of avoiding your bank balance. Sometimes, it’s choosing hope instead of shame.

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“I Am that I Am” - I am softness and strength. I am not behind—I am blooming right on time. I am worthy of joy in every season.

Fannie Mukua
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